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Thanksgiving!

2008-11-27T14:01:00.001-05:00

Tis the season to be thankful for what you have and I am most thankful for the blessings of a happy & healthy family. The last twelve months have ushered in some incredible changes in our family and we are stronger for it.

Mostly, I'm grateful in knowing that no matter what, the basics are what matter most: love, health, shelter and food.

Today as my family celebrates the season and joins together in thanks, we'd like to send thanksgiving blessings to you and yours. May you Holidays be filled with the basics.

Dawn of a new day. . .

2008-11-05T13:04:00.002-05:00

Election Day 2008

2008-11-04T08:00:00.000-05:00

Today is November 4, 2008. In the United States we get to use our vote to usher in a new era for our Country.

I am voting today because I am black, and many black men and women suffered and died so that I could have this opportunity today.

I am voting today because I am a woman, and many women suffered long and hard, so that I could cast my voice into the pool of American voices.

I am voting today because I am a United States Citizen, born and bred, and because I love my country.

I am voting today because it is my right to make my vote count.

I am voting today for Barack Obama and Joe Biden, because they represent a future for my family, especially my son, that I can believe in. Because I believe we as a Country are headed in a direction that cannot end well, and I want to change that course.

So whatever reason you have today to vote, make sure you do. If you don't vote, you cannot have an opinion, good or bad, for what happens to the future of this Country, your Country.

I may not agree with your choice of candidate, but those same people that died for me, died for you. So whoever you vote for today, make your voice count, make their tears meaningful, and their blood worthy of the dropping.

I'll see you tomorrow, in a new America, no matter what the outcome . . . every election is a chance to change course.

Don't Vote!!

2008-10-03T19:04:00.000-04:00

Doing a little reading

2008-10-02T16:07:00.006-04:00

Every so often, Vlad picks up one of his books and begins to "read". Since he's heard the stories so many times, he usually interprets what he sees on the page.

A few weeks ago we borrowed a "Big Trucks" book from the library for him since he loves big trucks. It's not really a story, he just looks at the pictures and identifies the ones he knows. When we can, we help him with the ones he doesn't. This is mommie (before the new dooo) and Vlad going through the book. Have fun!

4-0

2008-09-25T00:00:00.003-04:00

Today I turn 40 years old. When I was 18, I never thought this day would come, but here it is.

I'm feeling ready and able to face this new decade of my life. What have I decided to do? I've decided to choose! No matter what it is, I choose what my reaction will be.

When I turned 30, I felt I'd become an adult. Today, I feel I've reached my stride and I'm about to start sprinting. I've been blessed in so many ways I can't begin to list, but I count them everyday and keep them in the forefront.

So I choose to move forward in being the best that I can be, I choose to be courageous and I choose to embrace all that I have become!

Happy Birthday to me!

A huge happy birthday wish goes to one of my best friends! We've been friends for about 22 years now (can you believe it??) and we've gone through ups and downs with each other. I wouldn't trade my "twin" for anyone. Happy Birthday Dee, may we have many more years of celebrating together.

I'd also like to say that one of my favorite actors and rappers is turning 40 today! Happy Birthday to someone I'd love to meet and have a long conversation with one day. Happy 40th Mr. Will Smith!

Obama / Biden '08

2008-09-13T23:26:00.004-04:00

We went to Manchester, NH today to see Barack Obama in person. It was an amazing experience so there will be more to come, but for now, I'm tired and must go to bed.

Obama '08

How can I ever forget?

2008-09-11T09:36:00.000-04:00

Today is the anniversary of one of the most painful days in our history. Forgive me if I don't wax poetic but I lived on 11th street between 3rd and 4th at the time, and it was VERY close to home.

For a full year, as I worked and commuted in The City, I mourned, without notice. Until it got close to the 1st anniversary and I realized that not only was I mourning, but my fellow New Yorkers were mourning as well.

I remember, I can never forget, and I hope that one day we, as a Nation, will get on the real path to right this wrong.

Happy Birthday Baby Boy!

2008-09-06T10:08:00.003-04:00

A Final Push!

2008-09-03T08:00:00.001-04:00

As many of you may know, on May 25th I launched an effort to raise $40K for the St. Boniface Haiti Foundation in celebration of my 40th birthday on September 25th! Approximately every two or three weeks I gave away an item donated from various artists and business owners who were gracious enough to help in my effort. Now that we are in the final 22 days, I'm making a gift donation of my own.

The final give-aways will be awarded on September 25th 2008, my 40th birthday and and will be given in two categories!

In an effort to get things moving along, I am donating more of my time and efforts to two custom made Knit or crochet items to two random donors! What does that mean? It means, that anyone who makes a donation in the next three weeks is eligible to win!

There are two categories and one item will be donated in each.

Category I:
- Win any item that is currently listed in my Etsy store in your desired color
- Any amount donated will be entered
- Enter as many times as you would like, but a donation has to be made for each entry
- Any donation of $40 or more will automatically be entered in Category II
- If someone else donates because of you, you will both be entered for that donation (e.g. You get someone to donate and they write "In honor of Sedie's 40th sponsored by [your name]" in the notes)

Category II:
- Win ANY custom knit or crochet item of your choice (blanket, scarf, hat, sweater, etc)
- Donate a minimum of $40 to be entered
- Every time you get someone else to donate a minumum of $40, both your names will be entered to win (e.g. You get someone to donate and they write "In honor of Sedie's 40th sponsored by [your name]" in the notes)
- Donate as many times as you would like to be entered, however, each donation must be a minimum of $40

I am anxious to reach my goal, so I'm hoping this little contest will inspire you to tell your friends and so on!

The money we're raising here is going to a great cause! Haiti has been hit with high fuel prices, high gas prices and most recently Hurricane Gustav which left 22 people dead. Whatever we do, makes so much of a difference in their lives that I can't imagine not reaching this goal and making a huge impact on their daily lives!

Now is the time! Please make your donation today, tell your friends to make their donations today and let's get this event concluded with a bang!!!

We get it!!

2008-08-29T12:49:00.001-04:00

Who do you want to see?

2008-08-24T18:13:00.001-04:00

He's gotten it in a day! What a smart boy!!

2008 Summer Olympics

2008-08-20T14:24:00.005-04:00

The games of the XXIX Olympiad Our feelings have been that it's a wonderful opportunity for the world to come together, even in the midst of turmoil, to remember that we are all humans, with many of the same needs.

From the phenomenal opening ceremonies on 8/8/08 to now, we have watched, as much as possible, swimming, gymnastics, volleyball, track and anything else we opted to stop the Tivo to scan. We've cheered, and cursed (not so much with a 1.5 year old within earshot) As we've watched. Vlad has only recently begun watching television with us and we've seen him become engrossed in the examination of the sports happening on the screen, only to re-enact them later in the living room.

In this ever shriking and changing world, a mother can't help but see so many more possibilities for her son. He's athletically inclined, that is for sure, but as his young life unfolds there still holds the promise of so much possibility. I can understand when parents get caught up in their kids activities to the point of sole vicarious living. I wish the best for my son. I wish the best for these athletes. But I also wish to have my own path to continue to follow so as not to make my sons successes or failures my sole source of satisfaction.

To the athletes of the XXIX Olympiad I say thank you one and all for showing us the heights to which we can soar. For being dedicated and persevering against odds. Congratulations for having been an Olympian, and for reaching for the stars. You are all the very best in the world, whether you've won the ultimate gold or not. Thank you for your sportsmanship and showing the world, that we can all come together in respectful competition, no matter the venue.

I'm looking forward to the rest of the events and the passing of the baton to London. Oh, London, you have much to live up to! The games of the XXX Olympiadare now in our sights!

Waitress

2008-08-14T08:00:00.001-04:00

(image borrowed from here)

Amid all the hubub this weekend we got an opportunity to sit, relax and do our favorite thing. . . watch a movie!

This sweet movie gave us a laugh, and a smile at different intervals and touched the human side of us all. I know it must have been a pretty good movie since, hubby, who is constanly disecting movies in his head, watched the whole thing! Keri Russell did a lovely job of being a sweet woman changed by circumstance and supported by her network.

If you want to see a movie that is simply touching, this would be the one.

New Addition!

2008-08-13T08:00:00.000-04:00

Yes, folks there is a new addition to the family. . . not the Maruska family though, not yet! My brother went out and got a full breed Japanese Akita on Sunday, and brought him over to meet us all. Isn't he a beautiful puppy? His name is "Piccalo" (was going to be Pickle Patty, don't ask) and he is 9-weeks old. Both his parents are show dogs and he is the sweetest thing.

Growing up my brother wanted a dog so badly. He did tons of research and decided the one he wanted was an Akita. My dad held off until my brother was 14, I was 16, and my sister was 9 then surprised us with a baby Akita. We loved Julius (my brother's name choice). He was a huge dog who took his family very seriously. He always protected us and the house so friends and neighbors were a bit intimidated by him. He didn't really have to say much, just look at them and they cringed. That is the beauty of the Akita. It's the "strong quiet type".

Now, my brother has gotten a baby pup for his kids and is this little guy going to be huge?!

As soon as Vlad got a look at him, it was love at first sight. He wanted to pet him as much as possible, they ran out in the yard and there were tears when Piccolo had to go home. He hasn't started asking yet, so I think he'll be happy with visiting my brother's place now and again to see the dog. I can only do one "child" at a time and we're already working on another one. . . all things in due time. Besides, my brother has a house, we don't yet. Maybe when we do, we'll think of adding a dog to our family. Until then, Piccolo will be our surrogate!

Rain play

2008-08-12T08:00:00.001-04:00

It rained. . . no, it poured on Sunday evening and guess who was there to witness the whole thing? Vlad was outside with his dad and the next thing I knew he came in and said "Mommy look." What did I see, a soaking Vlad!

Whenever it rains Travis takes Vlad upstairs to watch and listen to the rain. A few times we've just let him play, so Sunday was no different. Vlad loves when it rains. He sings "it's raining, pouring, snoring, bump head, morning!"

We make sure he's not cold, but a great part of childhood is to just play in the rain without regard?

It's been a soggy summer here in MA. I love seeinig all the greenery around me. It's such a contrast to the weather we had in CA. However, sometimes you do just want to go outside without the threat of rain. Nonetheless, we'll enjoy it all. Vlad is!

Just Because. . .

2008-08-11T08:00:00.000-04:00

It's always nice to get a little surprise now and again from you hubby. Last Tuesday I came home and found these waiting for me. Aren't they lovely? When I asked, my hubby said they were "just because". He's so sweet. What more can a girl ask for? I also got a text message on my way home that simply said "I love you".

Thanks for being so wonderful honey, I love you too!

Newport, RI

2008-08-08T09:58:00.016-04:00

Have you been to the East Coast? More specifically, have you journeyed to that small state called Rhode Island? If not, I encourage you to consider taking a trip specifically to that small state and to a small town called Newport! A few weeks ago (seems I'm just always behind) we took a day trip down to Newport, RI because we were told it was easier to navigate than the Cape (Cape Cod, where we were initially planning to go) for a day trip. Since what we wanted was beach, sun, walking and fun, we figured "why not?".

Turns out, it was a great place to spend the day. We had the most amazing time. We drove around to see the sights, we went to the beach, we drove "Ocean Drive" and we ate dinner at the Warf. By the time we were driving home Vlad was out like a light and so was mommie. Daddy had to stay up because someone had to drive.

We will go again. Actually, we'll go if someone comes to visit and we'd like to get to the water. . . maybe not this summer, but next summer is wide open. Here are some pictures from our day.

BTW the water was warm, not Florida warm, but Sedie-can-get-in-and-not-cringe warm, very nice!

The Incredible Hulk

2008-08-07T14:36:00.003-04:00

On Sunday night we decided to have a "date", actually we decided a few weeks ago that having a "date night" is a fabulous idea for a married couple so we've been doing various things. The most common thing we do is go to the movies. Travis is a screenwriter and I'm just a lover of the artform. So, anyway, we wanted to see The Incredible Hulk so Travis did a searc of nearby theaters to find out where it was playing. It's only been out since June 13th so we thought there would be plenty of options. Well, it turns out there was only 1. That's right, we only had one option for viewing and it was about 40 mins away.

Since my parents were around to watch Vlad and it was Sunday night, why not. So we drove out to Millbury, following the directions from Mapquest and came to the Elm Draughthouse Cinema. This is one of the things I actually love about living in the country. The Elm shows one movie at a time. The cost of entry is $5 and they serve, beer, wine and actual food! Plus, when you're in the theater, you have a small table beside you for your food! What could be better than that? Since we had gotten to Millbury early, I'd already had a Jack & Coke at the pub across the street ($4.50 for a 16 oz. glass, it was N-I-C-E and not watered down), I opted for twizzlers while Travis had some beer and popcorn. I love these theaters, they are the best of what has gone missing in America, a truly "social" event in movie watching. We have the historical Strand Theater in Clinton that does the same thing and we like to support them as much as possible.

So that was our experience with the theater. The movie, I felt was really fun. I love Ed Norton. He brings dimension to any character he's playing and Bruce Banner was no different. The story was straighforward and I enjoyed it. William Hurt looked really good, and from what Travis tells me, just like Gen. Thaddeus 'Thunderbolt' Ross. It moved well and the dialogue wasn't painful as it can sometimes be in these movies. I'm surprised it didn't get longer theater play, but in this age of get-em in, get-em out, I can't be too surprised.

My opinion is, it's a good movie to see and true to it's PG-13 rating. It is certainly a movie for boys!

The Dark Knight

2008-07-28T10:53:00.006-04:00

I know you may be tired of hearing about it, so I'll make it breif and I won't speak of it again.

We went to see The Dark Knight at the IMAX theater in Jordan's Furniture and I have to say, I never knew a furniture store could be that much fun!!!

I love furniture shopping, especially when I actually have a need, and since we'll be moving into our own place soon, there is a need! But Jordan's Furniture, was a whole other experience. They have a restaurant (fast food) and an ice cream stand as well as a greeter with "Mardi Gras" beads at the door. When you walk in, it's like walking into an amusement park. . . We saw a bed that is perfect for us, and we made the mistake of laying on a "Tempur-Pedic" mattress, then went through the home theater department and sealed the deal. How smart were those guys when they put the IMAX right in their store (you walk through the store to get to the theater, although there is an outside entrance). . . . Oh, yes, we did see the movie. We were in a sold-out theater (sold out all weekend, we got our tickets on Monday for the Saturday show) that was amazing!

Loved it! Heath Ledger really gave the Joker some dimension and depth. Christian Bale is still the best Batman, in my humble opinion and Christopher and Jonathan Nolan did a bang-up job on the script and the direction. Yes, I would recommend it, especially on the IMAX!!!

Disturbing

2008-07-25T10:37:00.006-04:00

I read some disturbing news today. An inter-racial family was detained because they didn't "look" like a family. The mother of the biracial boy was questioned for several hours and told: "It's obvious [the boy] has nothing to do with you."

I can't say that it hasn't crossed my mind that someone would go so far as to alert authorities because they felt Vlad didn't "look" like my son. I can't say that I haven't thought of my response. But I can say that before reading this story it never occurred to me that it could be real. Before reading this story, it never occurred to me to carry a copy of my son's birth certificate as proof that I am his mother. It never occured to me that a mere fleeting thought on the matter, could be someone's reality. . . six degrees of separation say it can also be mine.

It gives me pause to think there could be such fear in the world . . . .

Old fashioned fun!

2008-07-22T08:00:00.001-04:00

Last Thursday evening there was an old fashioned outing at the school where Travis has accepted a staff position. I left work early, picked up Vlad from my brother's house and went to join Travis at the school. I got to meet some of the other professors as well as staff people and they were all very nice. The school isn't big, but it seems to have a very nice culture. I think it's a great place for Travis to be while he's working on his writing, and the country setting is great. . . this city girl is seeing herself in the country and that is infinitely strange. . . !

Vlad had a blast with bubbles and a bounce house on the premises. He does well with other kids so he just gets in and joins the mix. If adults could be so carefreee what a wonderful world it would be.

Journey to a house (part II)

2008-07-21T14:14:00.003-04:00

When last I left you we wer scouting the area to see where we wanted to live. We decided on Framingham, MA for a few reasons. I work in Boston and right now it's taking me 1.5 hours to and from work every day. That's 3 hours a day commuting. Since I'm not driving the whole time, I can knit, crochet, sleep or read. However, it's still 3 hours commuting. Travis works in Boston some days and in Paxton (now most days since he is a full-time staff there). We decided on Framingham because it would cut my commute time down to 30 minutes each way and Travis' commute would be increased a bit, but he doesn't do it every day. We also looked at the housing markets and rents and we think Framingham is going to be the "next frontier" in the suburban Boston search because next door Natick is becoming incredibly expensive.

Framingham is one of those places that doesn't have the most vibrant center, but it has potential. The downtown area isn't georgeous, but it has potential. We're hoping the potential will show itself in the years after we purchase. However, we don't want to get into the house before the prices have stopped falling, because they are falling fast, because we'd like to think we have some equity once we purchase.

So, now that we've picked the area, what's next? Stay tuned. . .

"Poop in the potty"

2008-07-17T10:43:00.002-04:00

This morning, over the phone from work, I got to celebrate with Travis that Vlad had his first poop in the potty! For weeks Travis has been sitting him on the potty and asking him to poop. Every time we change his diaper we talk to him about the potty. I has gotten to where Vlad would repeat what we're saying and even point to the toilet and say "poop in the potty" when he was in the bathroom.

This morning Travis put Vlad on the potty as soon as he got up and right away there was a pee in the potty. Of course, peeing in the potty is not new, but there was still cause for celebration. A little while later, while Travis was doing something else, Vlad came and said "look" when Travis went to look he saw a poop, next to the potty. So he said, "Almost! It's close, but you need to poop in the potty."
"in the potty?"
"yes, in the potty."
"no diaper?"
"no diaper."
"ok."
So Travis sat Vlad on the potty and proceeded to feed him some breakfast. Mid-breakfast Vlad says "poop in the potty."
"What?"
"Poop in the potty."
When Travis looked, sure enough there was poop in the potty!! Needless to say there were accolades and high fives etc. They took the poop to the bathroom and flushed it.

Now you would think the story ended there, but it didn't.

A little later in the morning, while Travis and Vlad were playing, Vlad says "Poop in the potty." So Travis puts him on the potty and the doorbell rings. So while Vlad is on the potty Travis answers the door and it's my cousin Venny. When they come back Vlad says "look, poop in the potty." And wouldn't you know there was?!! P A R T Y!!!!!

So today, I hope, is a step forward on the "potty training" path. The days Travis is home with Vlad he usually lets him stay panless in the morning, encouraging Vlad to ask for the potty. If we remain consistent there is no reason why Vlad can't be trained in the next few months! Can't wait to get rid of the diaper bill for now. . . .

Daddy & Vladie

2008-07-15T10:00:00.001-04:00

Vladie and his daddy are just two peas in a pod. Vlad loves to do whatever he sees his dad do. Somehow he seems to know they are both male and he needs to follow daddy's lead. For a moment there I was almost non-existent. That has changed, but I know that Vladie would never want to be in a world without his daddy!

Mommie and Vladie

2008-07-14T14:53:00.003-04:00

I love this photo! Travis took it this past Saturday while we were out driving, having stopped for lunch. I love it because it's a great shot, but also because it shows just how much my little guy means to me. He is such a heart stealer! He's stolen both our hearts . . . especially when you tell him he can't have or do something, and he looks up at you with the big browns and says "please."

WALL-E

2008-07-12T13:30:00.001-04:00

Last Friday, July 4th, we went to see WALL E with my brothers children (Vlad was at home napping with Papa). I wish Vlad had been old enough to go with us to the movies because I thought it was very cute.

I enjoyed the innocent connection between the robots and I think I got the underlying message (not so covert) that the movie was trying to make. Did it bother me at all? No. I think if we don't pay enough attention our planet will become uninhabitable. . . but for now, it was just a very well-done piece of art. We will get the DVD so that Vlad can watch it at home some time.

Journey to a house (part I)

2008-07-11T09:41:00.000-04:00

One of the major goals we have this year is to be qualified and ready to purchase a house. After moving around in our youth, hubby and I have decided that we need to settle, and build for a few years. We never know what will happen once hubby's writing gets some recognition, but in the meantime we need to have a plan. So our plan is to purchase a house soon.

This housing market is a bit tempestuous to navigate right now because so many lenders are in hot water and everday more information creates more worry which in turn makes the whole situation more tenuous. As I've been watching the market, I've seen prices plummet and lenders tighten on their requirements. I've seen homes go "under agreement" then go "back on the market". I our process we have decided to take our time, after all no one is rushing us out of my parents home, and take a leap when all the stars, or at least most of them, are aligned.

I'll see if I can make this a weekly feature until we purchase (and maybe beyond), but let's take one step at a time. Our process may differ from others, but I only know my reality right now, so I'll talk from that perspective.

Step 1

The first thing we did in our home purchasing process was to scout Massachusetts. What does that mean? Well, basically we selected towns and cities within driving distance of my job and did drive by's of homes and the centers to see how we felt. We looked at their demographics, neighborhoods, accessibility etc. Not only did we drive through, I also did searches on the prices of homes in the area, as well as schools (never hurts to be prepared) and transportation.

We always enjoy this process because it takes us to places we might otherwise miss simply because they aren't on our regular routes. Because I work in Boston and take the commuter, it was important that we had easy access to the commuter and that we could cut my travel time down. This whole process took about 3 months.

Next week, I'll tell you where we decided on and why. . . stay tuned!

Vlad

2008-07-10T12:45:00.000-04:00

In a little less than two months he's going to be 2 years old! Where did the time go? Everything seems like yesterday where he's concerned, but isn't that the norm? In two years he's become a fun, smiley child, where he was once a fun happy baby. He's now able to let you know what he needs, where before you had to think for him. He's excited about things he wants to do and has opinions. He cries when he can't get his way, but knows the crying won't make much of a difference. He laughs, plays and interacts with us and those around him. He's ever watchful and mindful. We have been truly blessed with this little life entrusted in our care.

Because of Vlad we are more concerned with the future and what we leave behind for him. We are more interested in what we do with the day so he can experience life as a participant and not a spectator. We encourage him when he learns new things, dicipline when he does things that aren't acceptable and love along the way. We're hoping for another blessing soon, but that child will only forge his/her own place in our hearts because the place that Vlad occupies is completely full!

Beach day!

2008-07-09T14:02:00.000-04:00

There is a watering hole near our home we like to call a beach. After living in CA it's hard to call it a beach, but there is water and sand, so it must be a beach in its rawest definition. Nonetheless, we had a particularly warm day a few weeks ago, so we decided to go to the watering hole and lget "watered". This is a photo diary of that time.

Rainbow

2008-07-08T13:53:00.000-04:00

A few weeks ago I was coming home from work on a "sunny" day. When I got off the train it was raining where we were, sunny to the West of us and cloudy and thundering to the East of us. If you're not used to summer storms, it was a wonderfully interesting experience. Because it was warm out, not very many people were bothered by the rain so we were walking to our cars and as I looked up and to the East I saw a rainbow!

Rainbows aren't common occurances. There has to be a certain preparation for them to show and that day was perfect. After getting in my car and leaving the train station, I had to stop and fill up my tank so I turned and took the best photos I could of the phenomenon. I love rainbows. They are a promise of wonderful things to come. They are a promise that rain is for the good. And as I learned growing up in church, they are a promise that God will never again destroy the earth with water. Whatever promise you attach to a rainbow, it's a beautiful reminder of all there is in a drop of rain.

I took the photos with the American Flag in the foreground. . . I'm hoping it's a sign for the future of our country, our troops, our people.

Gas Prices

2008-07-07T13:42:00.004-04:00

We're all watching gas prices so I thought I'd let you see what the prices were until yesterday. I say until yesterday, becasue this morning as I was driving to work I noticed the $4.09 price had jumped to $4.15. Having recently relocated from CA (ok, maybe it's been a year and a half) I'm sure they look at these prices and scoff. When we were in CA we couldn't believe it was so much higher there. What we need is technology that will help alleviate our dependence on oil. It will be better for the environment and better for us individually. . . until then, slow down, take in the sites, ride public transportation and do what you can to help your family get through.

The fun of friends

2008-06-25T21:55:00.003-04:00

On June 14th our friends Jeff and Alex came to visit. Alex is from Massachusetts so they were visiting her family and they gave us a call for dinner, how could we not? We took Vlad with us because we didn't have the opportunity to get a babysitter, but a good time was had by all. Jeff and Alex got married on June 30th last year so on Monday they'll be celebrating one year of marital bliss! They looked extremely happy and that made us happy! We also got to see Alex's sister whom we met at the wedding last year and liked immediately.

Overall we had a great time with your friends. We were happy to have the opportunity to see them and share a wonderful sushi dinner. It's not always easy to keep up with those who are not in the immediate surroundings, but we're continually working at it and I think that so far, we're still keeping our friends!

Family Visit

2008-06-21T15:57:00.009-04:00

Over the final weekend in May we had a wonderful visit from my Mother and Sister-in-law along with my neice Callie. Travis' sister has three children and almost three years ago she came out to California to visit us with her eldest son when he turned 5. Last year Callie turned 5, but due to circumstance they weren't able to come out so it got postponed to this year. We had a lovely time togther.

When they arrived on Friday, May 30th we had a really nice dinner to welcome them and enjoyed wine and conversation. On Saturday the weather looked grey so we decided to take the kids to the Boston Children's Museum (which is actually fun for adults too). They had so much fun running around and learning that by the time we left to go home, everyone was knocked out in the car!

On Sunday, we had amazing weather so we enjoyed an outside activity. We went to Davis Farmland where the kids enjoyed feeding and petting animals, a pony ride and just plain running around. Later in the day we had a cookout and all my family came to enjoy the weather and the company. I wasn't able to take the day off on Monday, but I heard that a good time was had by all going to the Orchard House in Concord, MA.

It was sad to say good-bye. Vlad got so used to having his cousin Callie around as well as his "Namma" and "Auntie Christie", but as usual, life must return to normal. The next time we're hoping to see them is for Christmas this year. . . What a long wait. . . We'll again have the opportunity to make more memories and take more photos, until then we have to treasure the opportunities we have to communicate in the 21st century fashion! Enjoy the photos!

Phenomenal Dad!

2008-06-18T00:00:00.001-04:00

I know I missed writing about dad's on Sunday, but as far as I'm concerned I have until the end of the month to write about that, so I'll start now. I have so many amazing dad's around me but I'll start with my hubby.

Travis is a phenomenal dad! I could say that alone and it would encapsulate everything he is, however, I will elaborate. He has done an amazing job taking over where I am not able to due to my long days at work. Vlad is so attached to his dad sometimes I feel as though I'm missing the best part. However, I am so blessed that I have a husband that takes an active interest in being there for his son. Travis has been so good at playing, reading and caring for Vlad. I do hope I don't take him for granted, because I know not all dads are as great as he is. I hope he knows how much I appreciate the dad he is and I also hope he knows that I think the world of him as a father. I wouldn't want to have children with anyone but him because I can know that the kids will be taken care of no matter what!

Happy Father's Day honey, Vlad loves you, and so do I.

Minutemen National Park

2008-06-17T00:00:00.001-04:00

Travis and I watched all seven segments of HBO's John Adams. If you haven't had a chance to see it, please get it on DVD because it is so well done. I certainly piqued out interest, so over the Memorial Day weekend we decided to take a little trip back in time to the begining of the Revolutionary War.

Who knew there was so much history within our driving radius?!

Nice weekend to . . . clean the car

2008-06-16T00:00:00.002-04:00

Over the Memorial Day Weekend the weather started to change. We got sunny days with warm weather so we decided to do a little "Spring Cleaning" on our cars. They were both in terrible need of some attention so we gave it to them. Here are some photos of our cleaning fun.

An effort to catch up. . .

2008-06-15T16:15:00.003-04:00

There has been so much going on that I have not had the opportunity to really post all the photos, so this week I'm going to see how I can catch up . . . much of this will be "old news" but still fun to follow. . . I hope.

On the radio!

2008-06-13T12:21:00.000-04:00

Today is Friday the 13th and the best luck in the world is coming our way! Tonight, I will be intervied on a local radio station regarding this event and I couldn't be happier. I'll be talking about what we're doing and about the charity we're supporting, so please tune in. If you aren't in the Boston area, you can still listen via the web (isn't technology great?!). Below is a quick blurb about the show and links to where you can find it worldwide!

When: June 13, 2008
Time: 6:00p–7:00p

There are certain birthdays that require particular attention: the Sweet 16; turning 21. But instead of throwing a big party, what if you asked all your friends to donate money to a cause in your honor? Join Spherio this Friday, as we learn out how one person, Sedruola Maruska, is turning her 40th birthday into an ambitious campaign to raise $40,000 for the St. Boniface Haiti Foundation. Tune in from 6 to 7 pm!

Speaker: Sedruola Maruska
Location: 88.1 FM (Boston)
wmbr.org (worldwide)

Sponsored by: WMBR Radio

Open to: All listeners at 88.1 FM or at wmbr.org.

For more information:
Contact Amy Battisti-Ashé
617-253-4000
spherio@wmbr.org
Spherio

Time Flies!!

2008-06-09T10:41:00.002-04:00

I realized yesterday that I had a ton of photos that I hadn't shared and a lot going on that I hadn't blogged about. I have to say, if one day gets by, then four get by!!!

Life is moving at a fairly rapid pace right now. Vlad, work, birthday celebration events, yarn events all have me moving is a few directions, and I didn't even mention the process to purchasing a new home, putting our financial life on a new path and working on another pregnancy. Yes, it seems in the midst of all that, getting to the blog is the solace that I have not had an opportunity to indulge in.

Don't worry, all great things are happening, but it is the summer and we are hangin' out outside so the computer is not much of an option while doing that.

I promise to get some really fun photos on, but in the meantime, please visit my other blog and help me reach my birthday goal! I'll make a longer post about that soon!

Happy Birthday J & P!

2008-05-31T23:00:00.000-04:00

I have some friends who are partying tonight! They turned 40 today and I know the party was great! I couldn't be there because some things got in the way, but I want them to know that I love them and that I'm so happy that they have been blessed to see this day. I wish them the very best for the coming years with more love and blessings to come their way. It's a whole new chapter ladies, write it well.

My Boy!

2008-05-22T23:59:00.000-04:00

Vlad is such a little boy now! Every day I see him he looks a little different to me, so I can imagine what he looks like to those who haven't seen him in some time. He's so much fun. A very smart adventurous boy that we allow to explore his world and we hope grows with that same sense of daring.

Take control of your finances!

2008-05-21T23:59:00.000-04:00

I've read a few books about taking control of your finances. I've read plenty of books that give you ideas on what to do and, at times, how to do it. But the best book I've read on the subject I read about two months ago.

"Start Late, Finish Rich" is a book I passed on a table in Barnes & Noble, purchased online and read in a matter of days! Had there not be "things to do" in the book I would have finished the day I picked it up. However, I wanted the most impact possible in my experience.

Reading the book gave me a renewed vigor concerning our family finances and the goals we had set. It gives easy to follow, practical advice that makes so much sense you want to kick yourself for not doing any of it before. My recommendation is to go out, get this book, and get going on getting rich to retire easily. If you haven't noticed, no one else is looking out for your future, so you better be!

New Etsy projects

2008-05-20T23:59:00.000-04:00

My Etsy store seems to have been a bit quiet lately with no new additions, however, it's not that I haven't been working, it's just that I've been preparing a few items and needed a chance to take photos. My sister, her friend Zai, and my niece were kind enough to serve as models, so there are now new posts in my Etsy Shop. If you haven't stopped by lately, take a another look!

Daddy's little helper

2008-05-19T23:59:00.000-04:00

We pulled out the lawnmower today! The first time for the season. As soon as Vlad saw it, he wanted to get on and go. So, we put some paper in his ears and off he went with Daddy. He even fell asleep while working. Yard work is no joke!

Double take on Mother's Day

2008-05-18T23:59:00.000-04:00

My sister wasn't able to come out last weekend when we were celebrating Mother's day. She felt a little left out, so she came this weekend and decided to cook for us at my brother's home. It worked out well for everyone because dinner and drinks were made and everyone had a great time! Again, it's nice to be a mommy!

Slide

2008-05-15T23:59:00.000-04:00

Blow?

2008-05-14T23:59:00.000-04:00

We had a Happy Mother's Day!

2008-05-13T23:59:00.000-04:00

On Sunday, we had a wonderful time for Mother's Day. When I say we, I mean, my mom, my sister-in-law, my cousin and me. When I woke up, after sleeping in, I got to take a shower then spend the morning doing anything I wanted, which amounted to working on my computer for much of the time. When Vlad woke up, dad cleaned him up and dressed him then left the bedroom. Shortly thereafter Vlad walked back into the room, and handed me a card. It was just the cutest thing ever! Inside the card was my absolutely wonderful gift of a pedicure and reflexology!!! I don't when I'm going, but it will be soon, my feet need to be "summer ready".

In the afternoon my brother and his family came over and he and my dad proceeded to cook our Mother's Day dinner while the "mom's" just hung out and enjoyed the beautiful weather with the kids outside. I guess I could give you a blow by blow, but I'll just post some photos so you can see the fun we had!

A kiss for you!

2008-05-12T21:03:00.000-04:00

Sean Michael Anderson September 9,1969 - May 6, 2008

2008-05-12T17:04:00.003-04:00

I met Sean in college in 1986. Today I found out he passed away on May 6, 2008. Just last week. Had I gotten the opportunity to see him one last time, I'd have told him how much he meant to me. How he occupied a very special place in my heart meant only for him. How I knew to love him meant to accept him for the person he was. My memories of college are full of Sean because he was one of my "circle of friends". He was always everywhere, and yet he was nowhere.

After hearing the news I took the time to call some friends and let them know that I love them. Hoping, that no matter what happens to me, or them in the time we are not able to keep in touch, they know they're in my heart. Some of my best friends I met in college. I wouldn't trade any of them because they each had a part in helping me become the person I am. For that, I will always hold them dear.

Sean, you crazy boy! I'm gonna miss knowing you're somewhere out there. I'm gonna shed some tears, over a smile when I think of you and the crazy times we had in school. I'm going to feel nostalgic when I think that you won't be growing old somewhere and becoming a grandfather. But I will always be happy to know that you were in my life, that you loved me too and that you are now somewhere, resting.

RIP my friend, you'll be missed.

I'm working on something. . .

2008-05-11T10:41:00.000-04:00

For the past few months I've been throwing ideas around my head about what I wanted to do to celebrate my birthday this year. If you don't already know, I'm turing 40 and it's a really big deal because it's a new decade in my life and surely a whole new chapter in life.

On Friday, I seemed to have an epiphany and decided what I wanted to do. It's a bit of an unconventional way to celebrate a birthday, but it's going to be the biggest and best celebration of my life.

4.4.4 is coming! Stay tuned!

Learning and growing

2008-05-03T13:44:00.003-04:00

Vlad is so amazing to watch. I know I haven't had a Vlad progress post in awhile so I suppose I'll work on making up for that now.

At his last check-up Vlad weighed 23 lbs., was 33 inches long and was doing really well. He was a little above average in his height, his head continues to be in the 90th percentile and his weight was a bit low, but we don't worry about that. He's not missing any meals and he's not missing any nutrients so a little under is better than over for us.

Since he's been going to school during the days, when I get home at night there is always a new word or expression waiting for me at the end of the day. His words are a plenty, so I won't list them here, but he is doing a very good job of absorbing. He know the words to most of the items he likes to eat and drink so he can ask for them by name. He also has expressions like "oh gosh", "oh man", "wow!" "yay" that he uses in such commical ways! We can say, "it's bathtime" he'll say "bathtime, yay!". Needless to say it's lots of fun listening to him.

We hope to get him out as much as possible this summer because he is so sensory now that we want to make sure he is adequately stimulated without turning on the television. I'm planning a "Vladdie and Mommy" day in mid-June. I'll take a day off from work and spend it with my son, I'm thinking at the Children's Museum of Boston, simply bonding and spending time I can't as much now that I'm working in Boston. We're also planning a few day trips in the area to beaches, zoo's, etc. Children really help you expand your circle of activity because it's so important to expose them to as much as possible.

Photos of my baby boy will be coming soon. I think he looks so different, not only because we now keep his hair short, but because he's getting taller and leaner.

What a joy!

Annie's Birthday

2008-04-24T20:45:00.002-04:00

We had a small birthday gathering at our house today. Annie, a family friend whom I've known since I was 4 was celebrating a birthday. She and her sons came by and we had a cake-cutting, singing and merry good time.

My brother's girls were over because they were on Spring break so they were hangin' out with Grandma, Papa and us. Vlad love having all the kids around. We can really tell that he misses their company when they're all gone.

Don't worry baby, mommy and daddy are working on it. . . ;)

Sping has arrived. . .

2008-04-23T18:30:00.000-04:00

I went out to the courtyard for lunch today. I don't usually leave the office because my company buys us lunch so I usually spend the whole day in the office. However, it was much to nice outside not to take a moment and get some fresh air. Besides, that's what you do when the temps are in the mid 70's, the sun is shining there's a beautiful breeze and the brids are singing, right?

Here are a few shots from my time:

The courtyard where many people had the same idea I did. I think the only reason I didn't see more people is because I went down later in the afternoon, not at the regular lunch hour.

These little purple flowers covered the ground in front of me. They are so pretty and just scream Spring!

Look, the trees are budding!!!!

Boston Marathon

2008-04-22T21:28:00.012-04:00

The first image you see was taken from our office up a ways from the street . . . If I'd known my camera could zoom that well, I'd have had photos of the winners. . . next year!

Overall we had an amazing day for the race and it was incredibly inspiring to see the people who finished. The Prudential Tower, where I work is only .2 miles from the finish line so by the time the runners got to where we were, they were exhausted! Nonetheless, they helped each other and found second winds to finish the race.

Enjoy this photo album of the event with bands, food ets.

Vlad reading?

2008-04-22T21:22:00.005-04:00

Well, not quite, but when he picks up a book he certainly looks like he knows what he's doing. It's even cuter when he picks up a book that he likes to have read to him at bedtime, because he'll recognize the various photos and tell us what they are like "peacock" or "brown bear" etc. I just really wanted to share these super cute photos of my boy!

April 19th

2008-04-20T13:31:00.007-04:00

First I want to say happy 60th to my Mom-in-law! I was in NJ/NYC all day so I didn't have the opportunity to speak with her. However, from what I know it was going to be a fun celebration of life. I love you Mom and I wish you many more years to come.

My dad, brother and I took a day trip to NJ/NYC and it was an absolutely perfect day to do it! The sun was shining and the temps got up to 77 in Jersey and NYC.

In the morning we were in New Jersey for a funeral. My dad's cousin's husband passed way on April 9th. I hadn't seen him much in recent years, but I did remember him as a very kind and gentle man who was always a pleasure to see. I went to the funeral because I wanted to pay my last respects to someone I had respect and admiration for.

As funerals go, they are usually for an occaision of sadness, but I find they bring joy. Joy in that people have the opportunity to get together with people they haven't seen in some time, catch up and re-connect. I always feel that there is a re-connection to friends and family at weddings and funerals. here are some shots of our time there.

After our time in New Jersey we made our way to Manhattan, where my sister lives, for a "Cherry Blossom" cocktail party she and her roommate were throwing. It gave us an excuse to see her. It also gave me the opportunity to see my old roommate from when I lived in NYC with my sister! I was so excited to see Casey. She and I got to be good friends when we lived together. She read the Navajo wedding prayer at my wedding and I just love connecting with her. I had been three years since we'd had a chance to see each other so we monopolized each other at the party! Here are a few photos of our time.

My Brother & Sister

Roomies

Random

You may wonder where Travis & Vlad are. They stayed home because Travis had work to do and Vlad couldn't be at the Cocktail party in NYC. They enjoyed a "man day".

Haircut!

2008-04-17T21:25:00.008-04:00

Before
I got the idea yesterday that Vlad needed a haircut because his hair was getting a bit unruly. So we waited until tonight to cut his hair and we were surprised at how easily Vlad took to his cut. The last time we cut his hair he wouldn't sit still and cried the whole time. This time, he sat as quietly as a 1 1/2 year old could with no tears. What happened?

After
He is still my handsome boy, he just looks more like a bigger boy than before. I think he looks great!

Good weekend!

2008-04-15T21:49:00.005-04:00

We had a really good weekend, the three of us. Mommy and Daddy got a lot done and Vlad got to do fun things like play outside, hang with his cousins and run around the mall! The weather was amazing on Saturday. I think the temps went up to 72 then we had heavy rain and then more sun. So in the morning Vlad and I ran some errands while dad did some writing at Starbucks, then we got home and played in the yard. After Vlad's nap, he and daddy went away, Vlad to his uncle's house and Dad to another coffe shop to grade papers, while mommy stayed home and caught up on some work. We've decided that having "play dates" with his cousins is good for us all! A few photos of our handsome boy!

70 in Boston today!

2008-04-10T13:15:00.002-04:00

It's 70 degrees in Boston today and we all think it's FABULOUS! Of course the forecast says we'll be getting rained on for the next 4 or 5 days, but for today we are happy! Finally, a real show that Spring is here and Winter is gone. Now I must think of all the things we can take Vlad to do in the warm weather! Zoos and parks are the first things that come to mind, but if you have any additional ideas, please send them on. We want to make sure we all enjoy the warmer weather as much as possible.

Sick baby no more!

2008-04-08T15:07:00.002-04:00

Is there anything worst than seeing your baby sick? When he has a fever of 101.4 and he looks up at you, gives you a half smile, then closes his eyes to try and sleep becasue that's all he can seem to muster from his body. Vlad was on Sunday and yesterday. He probably got it from mommy and daddy who were both sick Friday and Saturday, but then again, mommy and daddy probably got it from Vlad who was a carrier until Sunday. Nevertheless, we were all this at one time or another this past weekend. I'm still fighting symptoms, Vlad is happy as a clam and daddy had a bit of a sore throat, but not as bad as I am.

We find it baffling that for 4.5 years, when we lived in CA we didn't get sick almost at all. And yet, now that we're here in New England, I feel we've been sick every other week or so. Granted a lot has changed in our lives including the environment and we now have a son in "daycare", but can this bug please go away!!!

I'm most grateful that Vlad is a tough baby boy and he never stays sick for too long. He bounces back well. I wish I could say the same for his mom.

Saturday. . .

2008-04-05T15:44:00.004-04:00

What else are you going to do but take random photos. . . ?

Washington D.C.

2008-04-05T15:29:00.011-04:00

The weekend following my D&C, we were scheduled to go to the Virginia/D.C. area to visit one of Travis' friends from high school & college. We didn't see any reason why we couldn't go so we did and had a nice relaxing weekend in D.C. Here are a few photos of our time.

Thanks to Biana's hospitality we had a well needed break from our norm. We also want to send a big thank you to Bob, Biana's hubby, who is out doing his duty in Iraq! We love you both.

My latest yarn project

2008-04-02T15:22:00.005-04:00

I'm working through my "stash" so this is the latest item I'm creating! I know it doesn't look like much now, but in the end it will be yummy!

Look for it in my Etsy Shop in about a week or so!

Old sweaters. . .

2008-04-02T14:48:00.004-04:00

Hey folks! Looks like the weather is turning warmer so I was hoping you'd be able to help me with a little project I'd like to work on. As you ALL know I love to knit and crochet. I don't get to do as much as I'd like since I do have a family to attend to, however, taking the train to and from work has helped in that capacity. Anyhoo. . . You all also know that I am concerned with the environment and having as small a impact as possible (please forgive the car we have to drive right now since we are not going to purchase another one any time soon). . . I digress. . . In order to do my knit and crochet projects, I need yarn and that is where you come in.

Since you are all going to be clearing your closets of old sweaters and scarves soon, I wanted to know if you'd be willing to send them to me so I can take them apart and re-purpose the yarn. It helps you be a part of saving the planet, and it saves me having to purchase new yarn, when old yarn is a lot more fun!!!!

If you'd like to help with this little project, just leave me a note, or email me and I'll send you my address for the yarn! Then, in a few weeks, months or years, however long it take for me to get stuff processed through to a new item, you'll see your old sweater in my Etsy Shop as a brand new item! I know you're excited, but you have to get me the yarn first! Thanks.

Another ooops?!

2008-03-19T10:26:00.000-04:00

So I had an ultrasound appointment yesterday that was quite interesting. If you've spoken to me in the past few weeks, you know that I've been saying this pregnancy was nothing like the last one. I was nauseaus but only for about 3 weeks, I'm tired and bloated, but generally, I "feel" different than I did with Vlad.

So anyway, I go to get an ultrasound because we want to see the baby, and see the fibroid we know is there and how much it may have grown in the past few weeks. As the technician is viewing my uterus, she asks
"have you had any cramping?"
"no"
"have you had any bleeding?"
"no"
"I"m going to take some measurments then I'll let you empty your bladder."
"ok"

After all the measurements are taken she directs me to the bathroom and I empty my bladder (I had to have a full bladder for the first part of the ultrasound). When I come out of the bathroom, she's not there, so I lay back down on the table and wait. She comes in a few minutes later and informs me that she'll need to do an internal can so I'll need to undress from the waist down and cover with the sheet. She also informs me that a doctor will be joining her as standard procedure when they do an internal scan. No problem, I do as I'm asked.

When she returns with the doctor they begin the scan and as they both stare at the screen I know they see something that they aren't very excited to tell me about. Finally, the doctor turns the screen towards me and asks if I see the dark circle in the middle, and I do. Well it turns out I had what is called a "blighted ovum" and it happens more often than most people realize. What happend in my case is that the empty sac did not expel prior to 8-weeks gestation so is considered "missed abortion". Tomorrow morning I'll be going in to have an outpatient procedure called a D&C to remove the empty sac along with much of the surrounding tissues. This will keep me from having an excessively heavy bleeding period and excessive cramping.

Now, before you run to your phone and call, or send a sympathy card etc. I want you all to know that Travis and I are fine. I suppose we would be more disappointed if there were a baby present that had stopped developing, but there isn't. It's just empty, almost like a "false" alarm. So at 12-weeks we have found out that we aren't truly pregnant this time and another try is warranted. In the meantime, we're going to see if we can't buy a house before pregnancy so we actually have a space of our own to call home for Vlad and the baby.

We will be sure to keep you aprised when it happens again. . . we know you love the roller coaster ride! ;)

The hair had to go. . .

2008-03-16T19:27:00.001-04:00

I don't have the energy to maintain it as I would like, so I had to cut it. . . maybe it will be back after the baby, maybe not. But for now, I'm LOVING the freedom!

Random photos of us

2008-03-15T08:50:00.000-04:00

On the potty. . .

2008-03-13T20:41:00.000-04:00

We haven't gotten a poop or a pee in the potty yet, but we're getting him to sit on the potty which is a great first step. We want him to get used to the potty and hopefully, befor his sibling arrives, he'll get the hang of using the potty. Even if it isn't exacly at that time, at least he'll be on the path.

Here are the many faces of Vlad on the potty.

Shop my Etsy Shop!!!

2008-03-09T18:00:00.002-04:00

I'm so excited! I wanted to get it up and running by March 1st, but so much got in the way that I had to postpone until today. However, it is finally here. I'm talking about my Etsy Shop where I get to sell all the exciting items I make with the yarn in my stash or that I buy from artisans that spend time recycling yarn from old scarves, hats, sweaters etc. Please make sure to check it out and go back often as I will be adding items all the time!

I love yarn and now that I actually have time to knit and crochet, how can I pass up this opportunity! If you have a special request, let me know. We'll see what we can work out.

2008-03-07T08:46:00.001-05:00

Read this All I'm saying is I'm 5'0 and my grandmother is about to be 103 in June. . . that's all I'm saying. ;)

I'm very proud!

2008-03-06T17:32:00.001-05:00

My cousin will be starting his own law firm in the next few months! You've come a long way baby! I wish you all the best in your new venture. I know you are going to be great.

Black Women

2008-03-05T12:23:00.001-05:00

Good & Bad Times for Black Women

The above is a very interesting look at our triumphs and how far we still have to go as black women. The "wiser" I get the more I realize how much is expected of women and how that affects our perceptions. I was recently part of a study of black women married to white men and an interesting question was posed to me. One that I had never considered before but that opened up a whole new world of thinking for me. The question was "Are you a 'black woman' or a woman and black?" It would be intersting to hear how some of you would answer that question.

Anyway, reading this article gives some insight on why "Womanism" is so important to our community.

"Advanced Maternal Age & Fibroid"

2008-03-04T11:16:00.002-05:00

On Thursday my son will be 1 1/2 and I will be 10-weeks pregnant with his sibling. We had a doctor's appointment last Thursday, but it turns out that in this office the initial meeting if mostly to talk. So talk we did. We talked about my family history and Travis', previous pregnancies and what happened, complications and potential complications, diet, exercise and all those things you talk about when you first get to know a doctor. We determined that the two "genetic" factors we had to be concerned with was 1) my "Advanced Maternal Age" and 2) the fibroid I have that seems to have grown a bit with this pregnancy. I'm not worried, I had both those things with Vlad and other things got in the mix. If that's what we're watching, then I'm ready and able to handle them. We decided not to do any genetic testing this time as well. Whatever we get, we will deal with it as we know we can. Then of course there was the blood pressure taking, the urine taking, the blood drawing and the weight taking. My nurse was lovely and the two doctor's in this particular office were equally sweet. I think I'm going to be very happy with them. I'm already very excited about delivering at Emerson Hospital because it's one of the best in Massachusetts and only about 20-30 from our house.

My nausea has subsided significantly, however, I must eat every two or three hours in order to keep the yukkies at bay. I think my belly is already huge, but if you don't know me and aren't used to seeing me, you wouldn't notice a thing. I've started telling my co-workers since they are going to experience my doctor's appts etc. This pregnancy is different than Vlad because the day I found out I was pregnant with Vlad was the day I started feeling sick until about 10 1/2 weeks. This time, I didn't start feeling sick until about week six and I'm already feeling better at almost week 10. What does that mean? Could it be that this baby is calmer, or going to be the storm we missed with Vlad? I'd like to think it means this baby is going to be an Angel. . . ;)

My first ultrasound will be on Tuesday, March 18th (two weeks) and I meet with my doctor for the first time "officially" on March 19th. So far, I feel great and I know the baby is still thriving and doing fine because I'm still really tired all day, but not sick so not totally exhausted.

We have a new digital camera so I'm going to take some photos of my baby boy so you can see just how much he's grown and what a cutie he is! I promise, I'll be back very soon with lots more to share.

How am I feeling?

2008-02-24T15:54:00.000-05:00

Thank you to everyone that sent us well wishes upon learning of our news! We sincerely appreciate your support.

The big question has been, "how are you feeling?" Well, I'm ecstatic, nauseaus, fatigued, bloated, anxious, slow and cranky! Those are probably the best words to sum up all that I am feeling.

First, this was a bit unexpected. For those of you who know, the road to having Vlad was a long and arduous one and we worked REALLY hard to have him. As I was gearing up for another long haul in "TTC" (see side <- panel), I realized my period was late. I'm like a clock, never late not even an hour so when I finally realized I was late, I was already a week late! Needless to say I knew then, without the trusty test, that our long haul had just been shortened by. . . who know???!!!!

A bit taken by surprise, we are excited that Vlad will have a sibling close to his age to play with and grow with. Generally, I'm feeling just about as bad as I did with Vlad in the first 10-12 weeks. I'm really looking forward to getting past this part of the pregnancy since it just wears me out and makes me feel totally useless as a wife, mother, employee and person. I just want to sit around all day doing nothing but eating, and sleeping. My first prenatal appointment will be on Thursday so I should have some extra info on this new pregnancy to share.

Until then, I hope to muster enough strength to get through the next few weeks and get into the "feel-good" part of pregnancy.

8 wks & counting!!!

2008-02-23T10:24:00.001-05:00

Happy Valentine's Day!

2008-02-14T09:43:00.003-05:00

Whatever it means to you, enjoy it with the one(s) that matter!

Willie O'Ree 1935 -

2008-02-12T11:45:00.000-05:00

Willie O'Ree, ONB (born October 15, 1935, in Fredericton, New Brunswick) is a retired professional ice hockey player, known best for being the first black player in the National Hockey League. He played as a winger for the Boston Bruins. He is frequently but erroneously referred to as the first African American player, though he is in fact African Canadian. Additionally O'Ree is referred to as the Jackie Robinson of ice hockey due to breaking the colour barrier in the sport. (more)

Happy meeting

2008-02-07T11:29:00.000-05:00

Travis was away this weekend so it was just Vlad and I hangin' out. On Sunday, before the Super Bowl, I felt that Vlad needed to get out of the house and do some running around. So, we headed to the local mall where there is a section for kids to climb, run and crawl around. When we got there I happened to see a man and his son come in and overheard the dad speaking French to his son. Because I too speak French I am always intrigued at where the French speaker comes from.

As Vlad began his exploration we found ourselves within feet of this man so in French I said "I heard you speaking French to your son, where are you from?" This started a friendly conversation about where he was from and what he and his family were doing at this particular mall. He then asked how old Vlad was, so I said, he'll be 17 months (1 year and 5 months for non-months folks) soon. He pointed to his son and said, he too was going to be 17 months on Wednesday, I said "Wednesday?, the 6th?" "Yes." So is Vlad! Turns out the boys are only two three hours apart, Vlad being the younger!

Needless to say that opened up a world of discussion and instant friendship. His wife came from the bathroom, we were introduced and before they left, took photos and promised to stay in touch. We're planning on having them out when the weather here in New England gets better and vice versa.

Here we are (excluding the dad) happy to have met so randomly.

Charles Richard Drew 1904 - 1950

2008-02-07T08:59:00.000-05:00

Charles R. Drew was a renowned surgeon, teacher, and researcher. He was responsible for founding two of the world's largest blood banks. Because of his research into the storage and shipment of blood plasma—blood without cells—he is credited with saving the lives of hundreds of Britains during World War II. He was director of the first American Red Cross effort to collect and bank blood on a large scale. In 1942, a year after he was made a diplomat of surgery by the American Board of Surgery at Johns Hopkins University, he became the first African American surgeon to serve as an examiner on the board. more

Super Tuesday!!!! Go Vote!

2008-02-05T08:41:00.001-05:00

Robert Henry Lawrence, Jr. 1935 - 1967

2008-02-04T08:56:00.000-05:00

On December 8, 1997 United States Air Force Major Robert Henry Lawrence, Jr. was fully honored and recognized as the nations first black astronaut after many years of relative obscurity.

He was born in Chicago. At 20 he graduated from Bradley University and at 21 became an Air force pilot. Major Lawrence was awarded the Air Force Commendation Medal, the Air Force Outstanding Unit Citation, and was posthumously awarded the Purple Heart medal.

You can read more about Mr. Lawrence at Wikipedia and here.

Octavia Estelle Butler 1947 - 2006

2008-02-03T10:35:00.000-05:00

It is Black History Month so I thought it would be appropriate to profile prominent Americans who have made or are making strides in the world we live in as often as possible throughout the month. I begin with Octavia Butler.

Ms. Octavia Butler is the first African-American woman to gain popularity and critical acclaim as a science fiction writer. She was born in Pasadena, CA and started wrting at the age of 10. At the age of 12 after watching a bad Science Fiction movie she felt she could write better she began writing and never looked back. Throughout her writing career, Ms. Butler won many awards. As of 2003, she was still the first Science Fiction writer to receive the MacArthur Foundation "Genius" Grant.

In 2006 we lost Ms. Butler too soon when she fell and hit her head in front of her home and died.

You can read more about Ms. Butler at Wikipedia or Here

Some of her award-winning works include:

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Hair cut?

2008-02-01T09:28:00.000-05:00

I got home on Monday night and my family was at the dinner table so I joined them. As the conversation progressed, my dad said "Travis cut Vlad's hair." At first I just thought it was a joke, then my dad said, "why do you think Vlad has his hat on?" Again I said no way. Sure enough the hat came off and what I saw was a partial haircut job! (I wish I'd taken a photo). I was shocked. Vlad has wild curly hair, but it doesn't bother me as much as, apparently, it bothers Travis because he just got tired of it and started cutting.

He used the clippers and scissors, but Vlad wasn't very cooperative, so he had to wait until I got home to complete the job. So begrudgingly I completed the job and cut off all my baby boy's curls. . . It's only hair, it will grow back and the short look is growing on me. It certainly makes Vlad look like a bigger boy. The next time, however, we will not cut so low.

Off to school. . .

2008-01-28T11:24:00.000-05:00

Pre-school that is! Vlad started pre-school today! Yup, we found an in-home pre-school that would take him at 1 so he gets to go play with kids who are 2 & 3 while learning. We are very pleased with the person we found and excited that he's only 5 minutes from home. However, I have to confess, this morning as I looked at him before leaving, I felt sad that my baby was now going to spend his days at someone elses house instead of home with us.

I've always wanted to be home with my kids, but it has only worked out that I could be home with him for the first year. I hope he's gleaned enough from us in that year that going to school will be an adventure. . . then again, why wouldn't it be. No matter what, it's hard to watch your kids grow up, get hurt and experience the world. As much as we'd like to shelter them, we also know we are not growing children but adults. Hopefully, viable members of society who will do all they can.

Vlad is off to school. I'm proud. I'm sad. I'm human. I'm a mom. I know he's gonna love it, and soon, I will to.

Teething. . .

2008-01-25T09:38:00.000-05:00

I think Vlad's molars are deciding to grace us with their presence. Since about 7 or 8 months, Vlad has had 8 teeth. These teeth made their appearance very quietly, almost as if they hoped we wouldn't notice. However, for the past week, Vlad has developed, rashes on his face, and some very interesting bowel movements that come more than 4 or 5 times a day. He's also been a bit fussy and sleeping quite a bit at night.

I hope these teeth show soon so my boy can get back to normal. I know it can't be an easy task to grow those teeth, so we're giving all the support we can, but as we learned very early on, some things we all must do in our own time, and alone. If I can ever get a good photo, I'll show you when they finally show.

Happy Martin Luther King, Jr. Day!

2008-01-21T11:03:00.000-05:00

Today we remember a great American. A man who fought for freedoms that benefit all people in the United States and the world. Take a moment to read about his life, his dreams and his legacy. Then think on how much richer your life is because of him.

We all live the dream of Martin Luther King, Jr. Let's not forget to honor it every day.

". . . 'I have a dream that one day this nation will rise up and live out the true meaning of its creed: 'We hold these truths to be self-evident, that all men are created equal. . .'"

5 Years already!!

2008-01-19T14:06:00.000-05:00

Today is our 5th wedding anniversary! We'll be celebrating by sending our son off to his Godfather's (my brother) for the night, going out to dinner then spending an evening without the distraction of the baby. We're looking forward to it. However, since it is our 5th, we thought we should do a lot more to celebrate, so in March we'll be taking a NYC weekend. Staying in a hotel, taking in some shows and being tourists in the city that brought us together! What an exciting year this is going to be for us as we make plans to purchase a home, get out of debt and if all goes well, have another baby!

I look forward to the next five, fifteen or fifty years!

Sargent Shriver

2008-01-16T12:00:00.000-05:00

On Sunday, my hubby and I went to a pre-screening panel which included the writer, director and producer of a documentary that will air on Monday, January 21, 2008 called Sargent Shriver: an American Idealist on PBS (check your local listings). We really enjoyed learning about a man who made such a difference in our lives, but whom we hadn't really heard about. Sargent Shriver started and or developed organizations such as the Peace Corps, Americorps, Vista etc. Because of his determination these programs have helped so many get ahead where they would have been left behind.

When you're home on Monday, thinking of all that Martin Luther King did for us and all our rights, please take some time to also watch this documentary and learn about what Sargent Shriver did to help end poverty. It is a story worth watching and telling.

More snow days. . .

2008-01-14T17:51:00.000-05:00

Last week we were in the 60's and today, we were reminded that we are in Winter. When I woke this morning at 5:30 to go to work, I looked out the window and noticed snow coming down quickly. . . at 6:15 the call came that my office wouldn't open until the afternoon so I didn't need to work on getting to Boston today. Good thing because we got over a foot of snow. . . here are some photos from my snow day.

16-months so much done!!!

2008-01-10T11:07:00.000-05:00

Sunday was Vlad's 16-monthaversary! I don't usually celebrate those days but I do look at my son and smile at his growth. On this past Sunday, I looked at him and said "you've been here for 16-months, what have you done?" and the answers that flooded my mind surprised me. We do so much in our early months. It must be a stressful time and I hope we are making it enjoyable for him.

What's he done? He has grown from 6lbs 12oz to 23lbs, he is almost three feet tall, he learned to lift his head, roll over, crawl, walk, run and climb stairs (I'm sure there is so much more I'm missing here, but you get the point). He's already a very well-traveled little person he's been to California, South Dakota, North Dakota, Minnesota, Illinois, New York, Massachusetts, Virginia, North Carolina, Washington D.C., Maryland, New Jersey and Georgia. He's repeating any word he can and he knows what a number of things are by sight.

I am absolutely amazed at his growth. Not only does it make me proud as a mom, but it inspires me to continue to push, grow and learn myself, if only to keep up with him!

Happy monthaversary baby boy! Mommy looks forward to many more to come.

Vlad's New Year

2008-01-07T22:21:00.000-05:00

I celebrated the entrance of a new year with my parents, brother, sister, nieces and nephew. Vlad celebrated in North Dakota with his dad, grandparents, cousins, aunt etc. Here are some photos of his trip.

The way I heard is that Vlad had a great time with his cousins. He also got pretty aquainted with his grandparents and great-gramps. Not a bad way to ring in the new year if you ask me!

I'm reading!

2008-01-05T12:48:00.000-05:00

Thanks to the hour-long ride I have on the commuter rail in the mornings and afternoons, I'm reading again! It is so great to be able to read or knit or crochet or just nap for that time in the morning and in the evening, because when I get home, I'm ready to spend time with my boys.

Suggested above are some of the books I've read and think are absolutely worth the time! I know two are "Oprah" books, but I read Pillars long before she did and I have always loved Sidney. Parable of the Sower was suggested to me by my aunt and it was an amazing book that really got into my brain. I had to refrain from reading for a few days after finishing it so I would be sure not to confound the stories. I also have a strategy where I read one fiction then one non-fiction. It helps keep both fresh in my mind.

So, if you have any suggested reading for me, please pass the information along. I'll read any genre so bring it on!

Weather gone wild!

2008-01-04T12:31:00.000-05:00

I don't know about you, but I look at the forcast around the country and see the various weather systems, I can't help but be convinced that something is going on. Looking at these happenings may make you feel helpless. DON'T!! There's so much we can do where we are with the decisions we make everyday! MSN has a new page that I think may help you in your quest to help with global warming.

It's going to take us all to make the difference, because, after all, it took us all to make the difference. Make a commitment, at least in one area, to help battle global warming. Otherwise, people in Florida will get used to freezing and the West coast will endure much more than what's been happening in the past few years.

2008!!!

2008-01-03T17:57:00.000-05:00

Wow! It's a whole new year and I was just getting used to the old one! How does that work? Used to be I was ready for the yearly changeover, but as I grow up and time moves faster, I find the yearly changes come a bit too close for comfort. At the beginning of 2007 we moved back to the East coast and started a whole different life. This year, we'll be establishing ourselves into careers and hopfully growing our family by one. But all in due time. Today, I'm living single and I can't wait for my boys to get back from their New Year's trip to NoDak.

Resolutions? No, I don't have any. I have a lot I'm looking forward to, but I'm not a big resolution person. I'm one to make the changes along the way. Working in Boston has allowed me to pick up a book again so I'm hoping to get some books read this year. It has also given me the opportunity to pick up my knitting needles and crochet hook, so next year there will be a few handmade gifts to be given out. Besides that, I'm working on all that I was working on before the year changed. Spiritual growth, health, and progress for my family.

What about you? What are your goals for 2008? Oh, let's not forget this is the year I turn the big 4-0 so I'm gearing up for a celebratory Fall! Mainly, I'm thankful for the blessings that have showered on our family and that I anticipate for this new year! 2008 is going to be "one for the books" mark my words. . . or just pay attention. I'm paying more attention to everything and savoring life a lot more.

I wish you the very best for this year. All that you have reaped, may you sow and all that you wish for may it come true for you.

Happy sick days?

2007-12-26T09:18:00.000-05:00

We had a happy holiday these past few days, but we also had something going around that kept us down at different intervals. On Sunday I had some type of stomach bug that kept me from eating all day. My only wish was that it would pass in time for our festivities on Christmas Eve. It did, but only by passing to my sister so she was down most of Christmas Eve. Then we went to my brother's house for the festivities and he had been fighting flu-like symptoms all week. So, as I sit here at work on this Wednesday morning, I'm blowing my nose, drinking hot tea and wishing the back of my throat didn't ache so much. . . however, as long as Vlad and Travis are ok, so am I.

We had a wonderful time together this Christmas here in MA, next year we hope to be in North Dakota again!

To all our friends and family reading our Holiday 2007 site, we hope you've enjoyed our small contribution to keeping the world a greener place!

White Christmas!

2007-12-16T09:02:00.000-05:00

"Oh, the weather outside is frightful
and the fire is so delightful
and since we've no place to go,
let it snow, let it snow, let it snow"

We did a lot of our holiday shopping yesterday. Good thing since it looks like shopping today will be snarled!!!! We here in southern New England don't have to dream of a white Christmas this year. We've been hit twice in three days with snow storms that will leave at least a foot of snow on the ground through Christmas. This weather is quite different from winter last year. . . I have to say, I'm happy for that since last year we lived on the road through this time.

All of you in parts of the country where the snow, sleet and freezing rain is taking hold, stay warm and indoors. Everyone else, enjoy your holiday shopping and drink a warm drink.

Happy Holidays!!!

15 months . . . more than 3 words. . .

2007-12-12T12:43:00.000-05:00

CAUTION: Boring baby stats ahead, enter at your own risk!!!

I read recently that as a 15-month old Vlad should be using about three (3) words regularly. When I read that I thought, that's funny, he was doing that at 12-months. Now, he's using all the following words regularly: "bye, hi, no, mama, papa, dada, book, ball, please, thank you, more, banana, apple, finie (finished in French), cold, here you go (phrase), mine".

As I read further, it seems he should be putting two words together by 18-months, but he's already saying "bye-bye mama, hi dada, hi papa, hi mama, bye bye dada."

I'm not measuring on a gifted stick yet, but I may lean that way if this continues!!!! I'm such a proud mommy! BTW - Mama is for Grandma, not me. . . I'm not in his vocabulary yet, go figure??

Employment!

2007-12-12T11:43:00.000-05:00

I do not enjoy looking for a job. I never have and, I have to say, time has not changed that. However, when I'm looking, I put my best foot forward and get through as I need to. This time around, I have looked for the shortest amount of time and found a great opportunity!

I start on Monday with a company that is filling an interesting niche and where very interesting people work. When I interviewed with them I knew I wanted the position right away, but I had to continue my search. That ended yesterday when an offer letter came and made my day! I search for a job no longer. I'll let you know more about my job after I start.

An interesting thing happened to me on the job-search road. I went into a placement agency and spoke with a representative. In the course of our conversation she told me about a position she wanted to submit my resume for but wasn't sure if I should tell them about my son. My response to that was "then it's probably not the company I want to work for, since I have a son and it will be a bit hard to hide that throughout my career." Oh the things we have to deal with as women doing what we must for our families. I know men have pressures on them too, but would they ever understand how we outnumber them in pressures from so many places.

I'm thankful I have a husband who allows me space when I need to recharge. Otherwise, I know not where I would be.